Empathy sometimes comes from experience. There may be a biological reason: as we get older, the frontal lobe of our brain - which is the control center of expression, impulse control, etc., can change how much control it has over our emotions. Thus when men grow older they produce more testosterone and thus they cry less. Hi, Im a 48 yr old male. When I was younger I cried at the drop of a hat. sucker punch Spirit Guides hahaha. So many people actually do feel the pain, regardless of how 'daft' and 'illogical' it might seem, e.g. The Health Benefits Of Tears [Huffington Post], I cry so much now that I seriously worry at times that I'm going to find myself the topic of an episode of "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant.". Except for me it's gotten easier. To be honest I don't think they deal with the problem, only smother it, which makes them nothing short of a 'band aid' for a far more serious problem. I became a realist, a look at the facts and see if there is a positive solution kind of person. I have a beautiful 4 yr old son and nothing to worry about. Until you have such experience, and you have actually been in their shoes, it may not be as important to you, because you don't relate as closely. I guess this would be a good thing. So many of the examples you gave mirror my own thoughts and feelings, I guess like you said, we just have to 'chalk it up to life and keep on truckin' :). I balled for 15 minutes and had no control of it. As a 49 male, I too tear up way more than I would like or ever did in decades past. Great to hear from you as it has been a while :). Hold up a second Now I got something on my dirty mind I start out with good intentions But mess it up like all the time This post has helped me understand that by and large being emotional is normal and acceptable. I can be moved emotionally extremely easily, even by programs/stories that I have heard many times before. It is; but we can manage. Tears help us process the loss so we can keep living with open hearts. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on October 06, 2012: I so know exactly what you are describing from personal experience, so you have my sincere sympathies :). There are so many insightful thoughts and directions to gain strength from here. I don't know, I know showing emotion was once viewed as a weakness in the past, perhaps it's just another emotion. I cry often when I’m feeling (even a little bit) stressed or overwhelmed, when I’m in physical pain, when I … anapaula76 from Florida on March 14, 2013: Hi! :) NEVER EVER in front of the wife. Misty your measure isw tops! It was only when I hit my thirties I suddenly seemed to undergo some kind of metamorphosis, and now I can easily end up in floods of tears over a sad movie, or a murder case on Forensic Detectives. It does sound in your case like you are not getting the support you need at home from family or friends. I'm a guy who's experienced this change. i am so relieved after reading all these posts. It is a bitter/sweet situation. I'm 45, and first noticed a change at about the age 37. (I think that just means that those times are "embarrassing."). Happy moments, incredible moments, amazing stories, hardships, sad stories and even just the right picture to the right music. Writing in the Huffington Post, Dr. Judith Orloff extols not only the physical (i.e. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on December 24, 2014: I don't think they have Amy, you just learn to accept it as part of being human I guess. But sorrow left me pensive rather than tearful, I was totally unfamiliar with tears of joy, and unlike my mom — who cried at Gwyneth Paltrow's Oscar acceptance, for fuck's sake — I was very unlikely to respond to the emotional outpourings of others with my own. Hi mistyhorizon2003. Came off Seroxat after 12 years on it and gave up alcohol 2 years ago. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 25, 2013: Looks like we are all very much 'in the same boat together' Jbh37103. Get with the times, people – all of us cry. When I thought about it later, I noted that both my grandfather and father grew more sensitive as they aged. this track http://bit.ly/cQbSNu Robyn - Cry When You Get Older Robyn - Cry When You Get Older Robyn - Cry When You Get Older when we tear-up with the movies, music, variety shows, sporting events, kids saying the darndest things..it isn't necessarily a symptom of depression. Terri - is there a church you are or used to be affiliated with? Sure I'll cry at weddings and funerals, but it's not the same weeping that the death of a beloved fictional character will bring on. not being overly emotional until they got past a certain age. It seems to come from some type of chemical imbalance as I have always been this way since I was a little girl. This helps to emotionally clear sadness and stress. Quite a few of them do become 'emotionally incontinent'. Wouldn't exchange my empathy for meds or anything. Oh well. As someone once said, it's hell getting older. I said "no," but I know good and well that an event like that will bring on the tears. I wish you a long and healthy life now, and hope you have many more years of being able to enjoy and appreciate the people and things around you, even if it does bring your emotions to the surface. I watched mulan the other day and found myself crying pretty much throughout the whole first part. I noticed that this was originally posted three years ago-- so, how's it going now? So I let go..and feel good or enlighting for it. That is about 5.3 cries … Yes i am crying at the outpoor of caring, love and compassion. Continued But what happens when time just makes you weepier? I no longer expect to live forever. I think I can correlate the new emotionally enhanced me with the deep realisation about my mortality. Now I truly cry over them as I compare it to the many wonderful animal friends I have loved and lost. I can't get halfway though the Pledge of Allegiance without crying, which is truly weird, since I'm rather cynical and definitely not a right-wing flag waver. I am so pleased I have found this hub. anyway hope we all settle down and these affects pass ,peace & Love 2all. But this lately has just gotten to be way too much. I believe it's because I come across generally as a hard honest to a fault type of man. When I went into teen mode... or "hormonal teen mode" I was really sad when something very happy was going on or being announced. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on December 22, 2012: No there is nothing wrong with me, I have been blood tested and everything and all is normal (hormones etc). Every thing borhers me and upsets me. It can take a long time to come back from sleep deficit. I am confident that I am no longer PTSD and my emotions are now controllable. I'm having the same issue. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on August 05, 2014: At least now you know this happens to a huge amount of people Dan's Dad so you are not alone. Other websites had people listing the TV shows and movies that made them cry, and that got me going a bit too. Young boy, by the traffic light What your daddy never told you Is love hurts when you do it right You can cry when you get older. But the older I get, the more often I cry. Some songs or an outstanding performance will bring out the tissues. I cry very easily now, especially when I hear music or songs from my past. I just put that down to missing my dad and it caught me by surprise as I'd never cried because of a tv program before. Otherwise, we are a set up for depression if we suppress these potent feelings. Steve Andrews from Tenerife on August 14, 2012: Hi Cindy! I sincerely hope the same will apply to you as time passes. There is something either lacking in my chemical make-up or I am just wired this way and there is no hope for it. Then it started happening with other things, and over time turned into similar experiences to yours now. I am completely the same as you, someone who doesn't understand why this suddenly happened to me in my life, someone who loves animals unconditionally and someone who gets emotional over every TV program, including ones like 'Air Craft Investigation'. as they get older. I believe its because I have had a connection with the character or performer or the message in the act. My maternal uncles seem to get more confrontational and stubborn as they age. I have been crying too often and worst lately. Maybe we're all just using crying like some people use screaming; just another use of an emotions? There is nothing to apologize for.". Cry as much as you need to so that you can let out the feeling of needing to cry. Quite possibly, just normal aging for our species. Here is my take on it (and yes I am afflicted with the same thing): The more experience we have, the more likely we are going to empathize with someone. But at the same time, remember that the old attitude of crying being a “feminine” emotional response is old news. Wash, rinse and repeat and that's normal. Why? anymore! I cry multiple times a day, if just for a moment, and it's generally the same content everyone here is discussing. Historically, I haven't really been a crier. I still cry very easily, but now see it as just a natural part of growing older because so many people report the exact same thing (I am now 43). Thesedays I can cry over the silliest things, such as watching an episode of "The Secret Millionaire", (where a millionaire goes under cover in an underprivileged area, finds good causes, volunteers to help free of charge, and at the end of a week or so, donates large sums of money to the causes he or she felt the most deserving of his or her help). Some don't want to factor in the hormones, but clearly as we age, our hormones change (decrease), and in the case of men, the guy (above) that talked about his muscle mass has gone down, as his desire to lift weights, I do believe that is hormone related. I can't handle being around crowds, public speaking and a long list more. Losing your Mum is also bound to have had a huge impact on your life. Thank you all for sharing and helping. Glad to know I'm not alone in this recent onset of becoming a total, emotional basket case :). I just don’t do that anymore as you get older you will get calmer. Even a 15 … I have resigned myself to it now :). Your hub is 4 years old do you know now why your crying all the time? When a friend apologized for curling up in the fetal position on my floor, weeping, depressed over a failing romance, I told her, "Your tears blessed my floor. I am a 26 year old lady and within the last 6 months I have been a crying machine. It is when you feel nothing you want to really worry. But its been 2 yrs since and I'm still extremely emotional though I have gotten over the past. In a strange way I feel good about being emotionally moved by these stories because they help restore my faith in human nature (including my own). I am a guy and only 29 years old and have recently started feeling really sensitive and emotional when watching TV shows and movies that never would have affected me at all (similar to your examples in the article). ordinary advertisement is enough to make me cry. Unfortunately, it does not matter if it is on television or in real life, I tear up at the littlest things both happy and sad.... e'gads. I am the other way and cry less I am getting older. I wonder why this is, as in my teenage years, not to mention my twenties, I could watch the most depressing programmes and although I cared, I was rarely inclined to break down in tears. My mother that is now 49 (I was born when she was 19) used to tell me all these things as a child. Only within the past year, maybe two, have I become a fountain of flowing tears! Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 19, 2012: I am so sorry to hear this Terri, but I am sure you are not worthless. Maybe, as Trish kind of mentioned, now that you are older and mature you can see the frailty of life and realise how short it really is. So I'm wondering if it is part of how we adapt from the making families stage to the nurturing and teaching younger generations stage that most grandparents fall into. Mind you I did ask for it, so to speak, requesting new experiences for the 'higher good' to materialize. X, This happened to me as a man in his late fifties. As a youngster I was a quiet listener to understand my environment. eye-lubricating) benefits of tears, but their emotional benefits as well. I cry during The Big Bang Theory. I just chalk it up to life and keep on truckin'. I was raised by a strict marine who told me at a very young age not to cry, due to it's not a controlled emotion. For example, hearing of a child being abused and/or murdered, can greatly upset me with a mixture of watery eyes and frustration, sadness, and anger. I hope you find a way to get some positiveness out of your situation and some support. to me, i am thinking this has to do with never being loved or missing love all my life. Does this mean I am losing the plot, or is this normal? I just can't stop tearing at the slightest thing. I might still check with my gynaecologist about it. every little thing makes me cry which is grrrr. I have always been fairly in tune with my emotions but it seems like I can't get past even a simple reality show without shedding some tears. She may be distressed at being separated from you or other family members at night, when you're busy sleeping and not giving her attention. Right now your recent retirement has probably not helped you to cope with all these memories of lost loved ones. I cry now and just about anything, cute, sad, happy, adorable, any show commercial, movie. I just dedicated a song. I have never been this emotional ever in my life. Thanks so much for your comment Susan, and rest assured, it really isn't 'just you'. Mind you such news was always upsetting, but I never blubbered over it in the past. I so hope you now have a happy and bright future off of these pills :), Always thought I was pretty in tune with my emotions. You'll be much more likely to swear when you drop something, get discouraged when something goes wrong at work, or cry when you have the smallest tiff with your boyfriend (or cry … imbecomeingacrybaby@49 on October 06, 2012: hope we all straighten out!...but thank god im not the only cry baby here...lol...never was like that..i mean i cried at touching movies or heart felt storys but this is crazy.i cry when im watching the dame NEWS!! Or click on "See All Conditions" to see every condition related to excessive crying. Thankfully I am sure you will learn to deal with it, although it isn't always easy to accept when you suddenly find yourself in tears for something that happened to someone else (happy or sad events included). There are no more do overs. Male 57 years, pretty successful, moderately athletic. We are meant to love and be compassionate but maybe we suppress it when young and it only truly shows itself as we mature. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on July 10, 2014: Don't worry Adrian, this is perfectly normal it seems and I don't blame you for having these feelings after losing both parents so close together. The other day I cried when I thought about how complex and amazing our subconscious memory is! And again, it's not the sad bits. Thanks for commenting with your experiences though. When they get through I feel their emotion as if it were my own, and so want them to do well in the following rounds. Even watching programmes such as "Extreme Makeover Home Edition", can leave me in a right state, as I feel so touched by the people who put in the money, time and effort to build these people a new home that is far nicer than any home most of us could hope for. Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on April 23, 2013: I have no idea what it is about oldstayi, but what I can say is that at the tender age of 43 I am not 'post menopausal', and this problem has been affecting me for some years now. I had my hormone levels checked out a couple of weeks back for different reasons, and apparently they are 'normal'. Click on the combination that matches your symptoms to find the conditions that may cause these problems. Quite a few posts on quite a few sites talk about the Buffy / Angel TV shows which I'm a big fan of. It doesn't bother me much but I'm starting to try and find out what's going on. I think that it made my father, paternal grandfather and a couple of uncles on my dad's side better men, who were more grateful for their families and more sensitive to the needs of those around them. If you’re wondering how to not cry and hold those tears back, that’s completely okay. Excessive crying. 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